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| When we eat something that makes our stomach upset, we stop eating and listen. We look at what we did or ate that may have caused us to have discomfort, and we quickly change our behaviors to ensure that it does not happen again. Why is it that when it comes to relationships and emotions, we take so much longer to head to the warnings of our gut? | ||
| When we feel hurt, betrayed, lied to, lack trust, feel let down, we are quick to make excuses and rationalize our feelings and behaviors in such a way that we ignore our gut. We often give our own personal power away to others, rather than listen to ourselves. If we really trusted our own perceptions, we would do better in relationships and decision-making. Unfortunately, there are many reasons along the way that shape us to not trust ourselves. | ||
| For example, your partner seems to be distant from you and is staying out later and later each night. In the past, you would be informed about reasons for the delay. Now, you feel ignored, last on the list, forgotten, hurt, and start wondering about an affair. You quickly dismiss the idea that your partner could be cheating or lying to you. “No, that could not happen.” You make excuses for being ignored, disregarded, and don’t look at the reality of a changed situation. You begin to say that you are being overly demanding, you are being too sensitive, too “paranoid” and push away your own feelings. The very first moment you sense there is something wrong in your relationship, there probably is something wrong. That is when you need to listen to yourself and confront the issues that bother you. | ||
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This article was written by Dr. Laurel A. Sills, a Fully Licensed Clinical Psychologist (since 1987) and Life Coach. She provides direct, down-to-earth, short-term therapy with long-term results. She is passionate in her work and will help you stay motivated to change your life with regular commitment to changing habits in thinking and behaving. See her website at: www.DrLSills.com or www.BuildAStrongerYou.com |
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